Conflict Resolution

I remember once during a trying time in my life I went over to my friend’s house to talk. I walked into her house and found her boyfriend sitting on her sofa while her husband was at work. She told me that she was not happy with her husband and she was going to leave her husband for this guy because a lady told her that this guy was really her husband. I thought that was an odd statement and I told her that she needs to think about what she was doing. I set and talk to the young guy and told him that what he is doing is wrong and he should leave before her husband came home. Meanwhile, her oldest son came over to visit and he became angry because this guy is sitting in his mother’s house. He went and got a bat and started beat her gate in her front yard, bending the metal and scrapping his hand. He began to scream and yell at his mother calling her names. I help de-escalate the situation by convincing the guy to leave and helping him to leave out the back door. Then I yelled at her son and told him that the guy was gone and was not coming back because I just heard your mother call off the relationship between them. He drop the bat and came in the house after some coaching; I stayed over and cooked dinner for her son which was calm when I left to go home. I forgot all about my problem when I got home because I was too busy helping my friend. The conflict resolution I used was de-escalation. The reason I chose this method is because it would allow for the extinqishing of violent anger and allow for everyone to be able to talk calmly using proper and respectful words to each other. I think this method was affective and it calmed down her son and allowed for the guy to leave the house unharmed.